Often in life there are things that we go through that are hard, but the hardest part of these trials is moving past them. No matter what it is there is always something that pulls us back to those moments of hardship and sadness, but it doesn’t have to be that way.
In any relationship hardship the first thing you have to do is forgiveness. Whether you are a Christian or whatever religion, there has to be a level of forgiveness. You must forgive yourself for your actions or reactions, you must ask for forgiveness from whoever you have hurt, and if you are a Christian you must ask for forgiveness from God.
Now as humans we are not perfect, we mess up and we fall. Sometimes we don’t even know we have fallen until our face hits the floor. The next thing to do is to stop looking back, and this may be the hardest part. For me it’s looking at old pictures, listening to music from a certain time in my past, looking at the scars on my arms and remembering all the hurt. For most people it’s checking Facebook pages, keeping the conversation going with others about certain people or times. A lot of the time it’s about people.
I am here to tell you, do not check their page. Do not measure your happiness against someone else’s. People show you what they want you to see, if it is someone you are not close with then you don’t know if it is just a smoke screen. Wanting what others have whether it be: in a relationship, an object, or any other lists of things, is not helping you.
Stop doing things that remind you of past hurt or hardships, only you can stop yourself from feeling the hurt. Surround yourself with people that help you forget and move on from those dark days.
Move on. Those two words are all you need to hear, because only after you have accepted the fact that the past happened and there is nothing you can do to go back or change it, will you be happy and able to move past it.
So many people go through difficult days, but some how they are thankful and that is what we all should be even for the small things we may admittedly take for granted. Be happy in the life laid out for you and change the things that don’t make you happy. Delete the number, block the page, and move past the feelings. Our dark days make us thankful for the blessed days.